tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191305690115815152.post3156664494914001624..comments2023-03-18T07:52:23.524-04:00Comments on Mynjuans Daily Sense: Deciding To Date a DADMynJuanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16341272866725276055noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191305690115815152.post-22896146242258393752010-09-22T08:08:13.144-04:002010-09-22T08:08:13.144-04:00@SugarWater: Everyone experiencesin life will colo...@SugarWater: Everyone experiencesin life will colorif they will or won't do certain things. I, to, was in a blended family, but my situation was one of love and betterthan the original set-up,lol! I respect where you're coming from but sometimes what we go through in life are to show us what we SHOULDN'T be like or do, not to keep us from them. <br /><br />Carl, wow, you went IN! I have to say, as a single female, and you know this, I've never went as faras to have a serious relationship with a man who has a child so you have definitely enlightened me on not only how a possible relationship will affect me, butthe child and mother in the situation as well. I've neverasked myself, "Am I willing to be a parent to someone else's child?" or "Am I willing to love and care for another person's child as much as lve and carefor their father?" Thos are quite important subjects athat I will take to heart moving forward. <br /><br />Thank both of you.MynJuanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341272866725276055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191305690115815152.post-24520889277466845392010-09-21T20:37:39.195-04:002010-09-21T20:37:39.195-04:00Kim,
I love your article.. it was entertaining, b...Kim,<br /><br />I love your article.. it was entertaining, but i feel as a Dad that although somethings were within reason, its not realistic. As someone who was dating with a 3 year old daughter, I knew instantly that whoever i was dating would never come in contact with my child until they play a critical part in my life.. only because Kids tend to remember and get attached to people. It took almost a year for the lady i was dating to even see and say "hello" to my daughter.. so there is a huge responsibility from the Fathers part before you are even introduced.<br /><br />The questions i have for the sisters who are "umm hmmm'ing" with you on this subject is 1) are you ready to be a friend/role model/inspiration to this little one? 2) are you ready to accept the fact that you will have to share the Father you with? and 3) will you learn and accept to love this little one with all your heart just like you love and accept their Dad?.. very important.<br /><br />Sugar Water is right its difficult in the next step.. but what great relationship is easy? again it takes LOVE and ACCEPTANCE.. with those two things.. a blended family will remain. What most women do is play the "back" role when it comes to the BFs Kid(s).. so therefore that is how the child will see you. if you take a more involved role without becoming mommy dearest.. the child will learn to accept you as someone who is there.. someone who they can talk to when they cant talk to Mom or Dad.. women cant play the back end.. even though you want your own kids.. you gotta be involved, you gotta talk to the "baby mom" and let her know that im not trying to start anything.. im so and so and i just wanted to let you know who your child is around.. doing that will save you and your relationship from a TON of drama.. alot of times we tend to leave the other side in the dark fearing or assuming that they will spazz out.. but i find if the MAN is upfront with both sides.. its cool for everyone...The Debonair Extraordinairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14419715849968280066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191305690115815152.post-83257504303752268052010-09-21T16:06:49.953-04:002010-09-21T16:06:49.953-04:00My only rule has always JUST DON'T DO IT. This...My only rule has always JUST DON'T DO IT. This is a great outlook on dating men with kids, but let's take it a step further...what happens after you do? You get closer, you get engaged, you get married. Now you have a blended family - now what? What are those rules and guidelines? This is the part that worries me the most, especially since I grew up in a blended family that was not always peaches and roses. Just something to think about, cuz we are at that age where we can't stop thinking at the dating stage!Sugar Waterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13700176622289218062noreply@blogger.com